I first met Hilary late 1990’s when my sister in law took me to her home to meet her. Hils had a passion for trying to educate professionals about the symptoms of post polio. Some were interested, some not, and lack of neurologists in the N.H.S around the country to help P.P.S, was very limited. Hils very quickly highlighted the absence of same. She fought and won many times the medical profession from their lack of knowledge and understanding.
Hils was forthright, determined and great diligence (careful and persistent in work of effort and refused to be put down) She was kind, thoughtful and caring towards people in distress asking for help and information. At times she was overwhelmed by it all, quickly realising a time slot of after 7pm a good time to phone her when she had fed and settled Richard’s evening meal and sitting comfortably in her armchair in the lounge.
Hils gathered much information by travelling to other Countries where she met her lovely Richard and married him. A marriage made in heaven! as they both struggled with their illnesses together, and laughed and cried together in equal measures of good and bad times.
Hils deserved to receive an MBE and go to meet the Queen wearing her new hat!😀 for all her achievements in helping people far wide. (M.B.E, is an award that is given to people who have worked hard for their community over a long time and made a difference. They have shown other people what can be done through hard work.)
No house/home would ever of been big enough for Hils as she filled her place with papers of worldwide knowledge of PPS and forgot her own message in PSN of pacing and resting and collapsing. Her work load was huge, whoever could fill your shoes Hils to carry on the work you started in the 1990’s.
I came across an email from Hils a long while back, she had links with Cornwall and Devon, and l had been describing something in Devon, the latter Hils saying she remembered it well sitting on the wall of the Shell garage betwixt Exmouth and Budleigh Salterton collecting car numbers with her brother.
The yearly AGM’s were something to look forward to not forgetting how much hard work to prepare for, and daughter Ali preparing lovely buffets for us, but after we had left the Ibis Hotel and gone across to the (can’t remember its name) to eat, we would all return to the Ibis lounge area and Hils regaling stories of her time in the police force having us in fits of laughter, added to by Richard’s dry sense of humour, and not wanting the evening to end.
Will miss you both so much and thanks for being on the end of the phone for a laugh and to put the world to rights (and social services😂)
Rest in peace Hils, the world will not be the same without you, you were an extraordinary character and will be sadly missed, there is definitely not two of you in this world. Much love,
Barbara Taverner
21st August 2024